After learning about the personality strengths and struggles, you probably have a good idea of what your child might be. You are likely able to decide what personality is not them. You can most likely narrow it down to a couple of the personality options. And that’s great! There is a reason that you have narrowed it down to a couple. Most people are a combination of two personality types. You may be largely one with a touch of another, two relatively equal blends, or some other make up within the combination of the two. And that is precisely why two kids of the same personality can still look different.
People are usually a combination of two squares on the quadrant. The two boxes are generally ones that touch. The reason for this is that opposite squares are typically opposite personalities. We are not naturally born with two conflicting personalities. (Due to some life experiences, family of origin combinations, or traumatic experiences, people may learn to cope and thus have a learned personality that appears to be a combination of two opposites.) Here we will talk about the usual combinations.
The personality that is most obvious is considered the primary personality. If a person takes an assessment, such as the one found in The You Zoo book, this would be their highest score. Without an assessment, it is the box/description that has the most traits that resemble them. The second highest score (if taking an assessment) or the box/description that carries the next significant number of similar traits is called the secondary personality.
Thus, the common combinations would be as follows:
Playful-Powerful, Powerful–Proper, Proper-Peaceful, Peaceful-Playful and the flip flop of those…Powerful-Playful, Playful-Peaceful, Peaceful-Proper, and Proper-Powerful.
Tomorrow we will talk about the distinct traits of introvert and extrovert as well as people who are task focused or relationship focused. This may shed some further light on your deciding where your child may fall on the quadrant.