This tends to be a common theme for the Playful Sanguine. While this theme occurs in both child and adult Sanguines, we are going to look at this theme in the adult or parent.
A Playful Sanguine is often uttering those words. While other personalities may be mortified at the thought of admitting that they forgot something, Playful Sanguines don’t really mind. They are so used to it, that it rolls quite easily from their tongue. The following are some other things that tend to be part of their self-talk process.
“I can always have others help me.”
“I can’t remember how I’m supposed to do it.”
“I seriously forgot!”
“I didn’t know I was supposed to do that.”
“I didn’t want to do it. It was boring.”
“It’s not fun.”
“I started it but never finished it.”
Playful Sanguines don’t have much trouble admitting their wrongs. They may laugh it off and act as thought it doesn’t really phase them or even matter. But these very themes can cause some problems in everyday relationships and even in parenting.
How might this play out in a Playful Sanguine Parent? You might see the following:
- Caught up in moment and lose focus on what needs done.
- Dismiss undesirable tasks as a parent because they aren’t fun.
- Distracted easily and forgets to follow through.
- Play and have fun but can too easily forget role as parent.
- Provide poor example of appropriate behavior, if they can get a laugh.
- Competes for center stage and may not take parental role seriously.
- Swayed from effective discipline by child’s charm or tears.
- Claims to forget or not understand to avoid responsibility.
- Appears to be a softy or oblivious, without boundaries.
How can a Playful Sanguine address the self-talk that flutters through their head and causes them to be less effective in life or as a parent?
- Stop and get some focus. Make yourself slow down, focus and really thing about what’s going on, instead of just going by the seat of your pants all the time.
- Identify a couple ways you can become more responsible to the tasks at hand. Note not just the thing that needs to happen but the steps it may take to get it to happen.
- Establish your role as parent and how you might need to take that role more seriously. It is good to have fun with your kids, but it is equally important that they feel your strength as a parent and that you can handle the job.
- Take the initiative to know what needs done, see it through, and follow through with consequences if need be. No more claiming, “I didn’t know. I forgot. Or I wasn’t sure.”
This post focuses on the inner self-talk of the Playful Sanguine and the downfalls they may experience as a parent. These may not fit your personality. And that’s okay. You might be one of the other personalities. The next two days we will address the other personalities.