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What is The You Zoo?

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You may be new to all this talk about the personalities. Or maybe you are quite experienced with what the study of personalities is all about. Either way, I’d like to share with you a great resource for parents and families as they learn to put the knowledge of personalities to good use.

I learned about the personalities back in junior high. I found it fascinating, since it helped me understand myself in a whole new way. When I started dating, it was interesting to see personalities play out in relationships. Then of course, as a mother, I was glad to have the backdrop of personalities in order to understand the things I would encounter in raising my kids. This desire for relating better and understanding others at a whole different level, fueled by my passion to help and educate others stirred me to start designing a practical parenting tool. I wanted other parents to be able to have a framework of their child and an effective way to relate and love them according to their unique traits and needs.

A colleague of mine, and co-author of this book, worked with me to bring this idea to life. The You Zoo is both a children’s personality assessment and a parenting resource. The children’s assessment is a children’s story that follows four monkeys through a day in their life at the zoo. Each monkey is a different personality.

  • Sunny is the Playful Sanguine personality. This personality is the noise maker.
  • Champ is the Powerful Choleric personality. This personality is the plan maker.
  • Max is the Proper Melancholic personality. This personality is the rule maker.
  • Pal is the Peaceful Phlegmatic. This personality is the peace maker.

The monkeys in the story are all different, and so are their actions and choices. When reading the story, children are asked to decide which monkey they are most like. Through child-adult interaction, the assessment is completed to give a picture of what the child would choose or do. Their choices and preferences give an indicator of their personality.

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This book also includes a parent observation assessment. Using this tool, a parent makes choices that indicate another perspective of the child’s personality. Together, the child assessment and parent observation assessment can cast an accurate picture of which personality that child may be. There is also a short parent personality assessment. When all of these pieces are put together, a parent can get a clear picture of their child as well as who they (as a parent) might be. The book has sections on each personality that discuss personality strengths, struggles, and needs. Pages of practical tips for each of the personalities will help parents see how they can be more effective in dealing with the child. There is some discussion on the combination of different parent and child personalities and what might work well and what might be a challenge.

Parents and teachers have given great feedback on how this book has helped them make more meaningful connections. If you know that “one size fits all” is not true in dealing with children, this book is for you! If you want to become more effective as a parent or teacher, connect at a deeper level, and help grow your child in their strengths, than you will want to experience this book.

For more information about The You Zoo, please visit If you have questions or comments, I would love to hear from you. Please email me at


Don’t Parent Alone!

It takes a village to raise a child.


Indeed, that becomes obvious from the moment you get that tiny baby home from the hospital. You realize their utter dependence on you to keep them alive, and you know you will have to ask others for their help, advice, and support! The older your little one gets, the more apparent that statement becomes. You also learn over the course of years, that you could drive yourself nuts with all the unsolicited advice and conflicting approaches, or you could gather all the information you can and then glean what is most appropriate and useful for your family.

The information I learned about personalities is one of the most useful tools I’ve used in parenting six kids. There were times I would have thought I was losing my mind, if I didn’t understand the different personalities and their unique perspectives on life. I quickly learned that what worked with one child didn’t necessarily work with another. And when I thought I had things figured out, one would always throw me for a loop. Understanding how to approach each child with communication and discipline that was tailored to each child’s personality was the most effective tool I discovered. This blog is intended to be a companion resource to The You Zoo book. Here I will offer information, encouragement, and practical tools to make your parenting journey more fun, more productive, and more effective.

There will be times this blog shares stories, there will be times this blog shares information, but mostly this blog will share the understanding that parenting can be a reward, yet challenging task. This is where you can get some new insight, perspective, and tools! If you have specific questions that you would like addressed in a future blog, please feel free to send them to Jami at

Visit for more information about the book The You Zoo, that will be referred to periodically in this blog.

Ready, Set Launch!

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The time has finally arrived for the official launch of The You Zoo book! After many years of hoping and dreaming, after many years of writing and reading…it’s now available to you! I speak for many parent groups, and I often have them visit the book table afterwards and say, “I’d like the book that includes all you just said!” Well, now I can finally share this book!

What does this book offer:

  • an interactive children’s personality assessment
  • a parent observation profile
  • an adult personality profile
  • detailed descriptions of each personality
  • tips on communicating and training each personality
  • ideas on how different parent-child personality combinations may interact
  • practical parenting tips specific for each personality
  • a fresh and effective parenting approach
  • unimaginable help and encouragement as you learn to relate to your child in a whole new way!

There are many avenues to The You Zoo. Feel free to visit Here you can read more about the book, learn about the authors, and purchase the book. You can choose to buy the book via PayPal, an link or Barnes and Noble link. You might also enjoy visiting the social network pages on Facebook as well. Search The You Zoo on Facebook and you will find the companion parenting resource that will generate conversation and thought about the personalities. Here, parenting tips will be offered as random bits of insight, encouragement, and fun. If you search for The You Zoo Book, you will find some basic information about the book. Visit any of these sites and pages for more information or feel free to contact author, Jami Kirkbride at with your questions.

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